Advice & Tips
He Never Apologises: Unpacking the Gender Dynamics of Saying Sorry
As a leading relationship therapist, I’ve observed countless couples navigate the nuances of apologies and accountability. Interestingly, one pattern often emerges: women tend to apologise more frequently than men.
Define Your Ideal Partner: A Relationship Mapping Guide Copyright © 2024 Serafin Upton. All rights reserved.
Finding the right partner can be a journey filled with excitement, challenges, and self-discovery. That's why I'm thrilled to introduce my latest dating guide, "Define Your Ideal Partner: A Relationship Mapping Guide." This guide is designed to help you gain clarity on what you truly desire in a relationship and provide practical tools to navigate the dating world with confidence.
Cracks in the Armour: My Breakup's Lessons on Men's Vulnerability and the Pitfalls of Performance-Based Worth
This article aims to uncover the impact of performance-based self-worth and avoidant attachment on men's relationships and self-image, offering strategies for fostering resilience and deeper connection.
You’re a Triple Threat, Baby! Keeping Yourself Safe From Narcissistic Abuse: A Dating Protocol for Women
Keeping Yourself Safe From Narcissistic Abuse: A Dating Protocol for Women
Are you sexually attracted to your partner?
Sex appeal in this context refers to a combination of attention to one’s presentation, physical fitness, health/wellbeing, vitality, self-esteem, interest in life, and participation in active friendships.
Why cheating in relationships has become far more complicated
A simple definition of cheating is if you have an erotic or romantic connection with someone other than your partner.
When drifting apart leads to growing apart
If you’re spending more time with your friends than your partner and can’t remember when you last had sex, should you be worried? Alexia Santamaria investigates the danger signs that suggest a long-term relationship might be in trouble, and finds out what to do about it. Featuring Serafin Upton.
Is There A “Perfect” Age to Marry to Avoid Divorce?
When should you move in? Get married? Serafin Upton featured in Alice O'Connell's Capsule article.
'I was seeing six people': Polyamory, often misunderstood, can also be freeing
Many people still believe in finding ‘the one’, but a growing number of Kiwis believe love goes further than that. Eda Tang reports on the world of polyamory, featuring Serafin Upton.
The Puppy Problem: When different processing speeds cause conflict in relationships
The Puppy Problem: When different processing speeds cause conflict in relationships and what you can do to drastically improve your relationship communication
Blog post: Holding your parents accountable does not make you ungrateful or disloyal
I want to reduce or remove the level of shame, defensiveness, or guilt folks feel when reflecting on their parents or childhoods. It’s not possible to make progress without looking to the past and holding your parents a little bit responsible.
Blog post: Things to consider before you break-up, separate, or get a divorce
Most people separate for the wrong reasons. Very few separate for the right ones. If you're thinking of separating, before you call your lawyer, call a qualified couples therapist.